Who is Watching You and Social Mimicry
by Paul ~ February 20th, 2009 at 9:28 pmYesterday in class we were talking about what things people pick up from observing others or what things we say really stick with someone. This has been a big theme between Kaelin and I as well because we’ve been observing what bad habits Luke could pick up from us. Here are some random thought tangentially related to that.
Language
I used to have a bad swearing problem. I picked it up my junior year of high school. I was just going along with the parlence of culture. Thankfully God has been sanctifying me of that. However, I still say quite a lot of things – including “pissed off”, “stupid”, and “idiot” – which I really really want to stop doing.
I have especially been noticing lately how other people mimic people’s words. It is especially interesting to inject a word into conversation that people don’t use a lot, then observe who uses it later. Because they heard it and it stood it, it remains salient to them. I think this becomes especially true for the various slang words we use for good, like “sweet”, “sick”, “cool”, “the bomb”, “awesome”, “hot”, or “cold” (not sure how “sick” came to signify goodness).
Actions
While at the store, I notice how social people are when shopping. If someone is deliberating over the various options for ketchup, and then I grab one, almost always I see the person grab the same one. Quite often in the market we do the “what’s this person going to be eating” look into the passing carts, possibly to grab ideas for ourselves. Stretching on the plane is another great example. Every time I see someone else stretch, I am reminded to do it. Then others see me stretch and often mimic what I’m doing. This even extends to unconscious action, like posture or conversational hand-gestures.
Sin
This one is huge. Sin is incredibly infection. Public sins are quite obviously so. Swearing is a great example. It’s amazing how much swearing can pick up in a conversation if one person is particularly prone to it. Speeding is another one. If one person drives by way over the speed limit, many other cars start to inch faster forward as well. However, the sins we try to hide also are picked up on – especially by kids. They see.
I have been very aware of how some of my sins – such as being overly critical or expressing doubt – immediately takes hold of others, especially Kaelin. My sin of doubting – which is ultimately doubting God and is not faith – becomes contagious and leads others to sin.
Sometimes things we do are not sin for us, but are for other people. This is what Paul talks about in 1 Corinthians 8. So while I may be able to not sin by using “stupid” in a proper context, teaching that word to Luke would enable him to use it sinfully. Or, I may be able to drink a beer in a restaurant and enjoy it; however, for some of my friends that would entice them to desire drunkenness. Or, maybe I can eat ice cream one some occasions; however, that might be overly enticing to someone who uses ice cream as a daily comfort mechanism that supplants God in their life. This is why Paul says “therefore, if food makes my brother stumble, I will never eat meat, lest I make my brother stumble” (1 Cor 8:13). Paul is referring to meats that could have been sacrificed to idols for the purpose of worshiping those idols. He says he’ll never eat meat simply to make sure that brother does not stumble. This sacrifice of your freedoms is a way that you can love your neighbor.
Anyway… to sum it up… someone is watching, and probably someone else is mimicing you.









